The Timing and Importance of Foundational Education
Within Islamic ethics, a child’s upbringing should begin at a young age, while their mind and heart are still pure. As Sheikh Sadi Shirazi eloquently stated, “Like a sapling, you bend the branch as you wish; but to straighten a dry branch requires fire.” This highlights the near impossibility of reforming someone who misses early guidance. It is crucial to teach modesty and protect children from negative influences after they reach ten years old. While fathers should deeply love their children, they must avoid raising them to be overly indulged or spoiled. A child raised in comfort without facing challenges is likely to crumble when confronted with life’s harsh realities. The most effective teaching method for a student/father involves both gentle encouragement and necessary correction.
Developing Skills and Professions
Material wealth and inherited fortunes are fleeting. As Sadi Shirazi emphasized, “Even if you have a treasure like Croesus, teach your child an art or skill; for the passage of time will carry them far and wide.” A child possessing a valuable skill is less likely to be in need or experience humiliation. Abd al-Qadir al-Gailani also urges that children should acquire a profession and be encouraged to earn their own livelihood. This fosters individuals who are both morally upright and contribute positively to society. The greatest legacy parents can leave is not material possessions, but rather an honest vocation and strong moral character.
The Family’s Influence on the Spiritual Journey
Raising a family and providing for their needs is a sacred responsibility. However, this duty should not distract from remembrance of Allah and preparation for the Hereafter. Shaykh Abd al-Qadir al-Gailani notes that striving to provide for one’s children has limits; he cautions, “Do not abandon devotion in order to expand your livelihood.” Spouses and children should not become temptations (trials) that lead a person away from Allah. Teach your family contentment, providing them with what is sufficient, and then dedicate yourselves to obedience of the Divine. Otherwise, in the abode of the Hereafter, one’s family will bring no benefit. A wise believer raises their children to serve God and binds their heart only to their Lord.