BEŞİNCİ BAB · DÖRDÜNCÜ FASIL · İkinci Madde
With acquaintances, observe the manners and etiquette of fellowship.
Beloved! It is known that the learned have said: Be cautious with those you know. For the greatest evil comes from those who appear as friends to your face.
But a true friend assists you. An unfamiliar person does not attack you; they go about their business. Indeed, all the harm that befalls you originates from hidden enemies who feign friendship but harbor malice within. Therefore, avoid such acquaintances as much as you have power [382/a], so that you may be freed from evil.
If you encounter your acquaintances in school, a mosque, a marketplace, or any other place and become entangled with them in some way, it is incumbent upon you not to belittle any of them, lest you cast yourself into the fire of animosity. Do not regard them with respect for worldly gain, so that you may not be contemptible in the sight of God and in the eyes of people. For you know that the world and all within it are worthless in the sight of God. If you consider the people of the world to be great in your own estimation, then you will lose your standing in the sight of God.
Do not go to their doors to obtain worldly gain, nor allow them to mock and trample upon their religion. For whoever goes to their feet for worldly gain (despite what has been said) becomes contemptible and humiliated in their eyes and is deprived of the very worldly gains he seeks. If the people of the world show hostility towards you, do not respond with animosity and hatred. For you cannot endure their retaliation. In that case, your religion will slip away from you, and only the fatigue resulting from dealing with them will remain – a long and tiresome fatigue. If the people of the world show friendliness and praise to your face, do not incline towards them or trust them. For you seek the truth of their friendship within them, but you will not find even a thousandth part of it. Therefore, do not be greedy for fellowship so that the people of the world may be consistent with you in your presence and absence. But they are not so. If they gossip about you, do not be surprised or speak bitter words to them. For if you examine yourself with discernment, you will see within yourself the ailment of gossip. Perhaps you cannot go openly regarding your friends, relatives, parents, or teachers. You utter words about them in private that you could not say to their faces.
Do not harbor hope of benefiting from the wealth, status, and assistance of your acquaintances. For he who seeks such benefit from them becomes humiliated and loses his possessions; know this. If you desire that someone’s need be met, and they provide it, praise them and offer good wishes, rather than scold them or complain to them, lest you open the door to animosity and hostility.
(Never) be a fault-finder but an excuse-acceptor. Perhaps the person whom you deem faulty has a reason that you do not know which necessitated their committing that fault; know this. Do not advise one of them regarding his error (immediately), nor speak to him wisdom he did not ask for. Otherwise, he will not accept it from you and may even become your adversary. If they are ashamed to admit errors, do not teach them yourself. For in that case, they will both learn knowledge from you and harbor animosity towards you.
If their error is an act considered a sin, you must explain the truth with gentle language and compassion. If you see any goodness or kindness from them, praise God for having made you beloved to them. If you see any evil or harm from them, know it comes from God and entrust them to God. Do not reprimand them, nor say, “I am the son of so-and-so, a learned man; how do you fail to recognize me, how do you fail to appreciate me?” For such words are self-praise and boasting. And praising one’s own soul is foolishness. Know well that God has sent them upon you because of a past sin of yours. Listen to their truthful words and be deaf to their errors. Speak of their good deeds and do not mention their misdeeds to anyone.
Avoid the fellowship of those who are constantly engaged in imitation and contention. For they will harbor envy towards you, entertain suspicions about you, obstruct your path, and wink at one another behind your back. They will remember any mistakes you have forgotten or made, so that when you engage in debate with them, they may bring them up to answer you. They will neither cover your faults nor forgive your errors. They are envious of the smallest things and begrudge even slight differences. If they are pleased with you, it is a reflection of their outward appearance; if they dislike you, their hearts are filled with resentment. For such is their status, their manners are from these customs. Therefore, their companionship is loss, their friendship is harm and detriment. These (qualities enumerated above) are the acquaintances who show you friendship.
As for those who harbor hostility towards you, dealing with them is easier than with those described above. Therefore, in Arabic, a saying has become a proverb: “Fear your enemy more than your friend.”
Poetry
Your enemy may profit from one who is your friend;
So do not increase the number of your companions.
For many are the things you see that are false;
They come from food and drink.
(The translation of the poetry)
Okay, here' in my attempt at a faithful translation of your provided text, preserving meaning as much as possible. Please note that due to the nuances of classical Arabic and Sufi terminology, some aspects are inherently difficult to convey perfectly into English without extensive explanatory notes. I will focus on accuracy and readability.
"It is through [experiencing] hardship that one recognizes ease; and it is through [encountering] abundance that one appreciates scarcity. It is through [witnessing] darkness that one perceives light, and it is through [tasting] bitterness that one understands sweetness. Know that the soul’s journey originates from a state of nothingness, and its perfection lies in returning to that very same nothingness. This arises from excessive eating and drinking."
**Notes on Choices & Considerations:**
* **"[Experiencing/Encountering/Witnessing/Tasting]"**: I've used bracketed options because the original Arabic word (likely a form of "ذوق" – *thawq*) carries multiple layers of meaning beyond just literal taste. It implies experience, realization, and understanding gained through sensory engagement. The best choice depends on the specific context within a larger work.
* **"Nothingness"**: This is a tricky term often used in Sufism to refer to annihilation of the ego or self (fana). I've kept "nothingness" for simplicity but acknowledge it requires further explanation in a full translation. It doesn’t mean absolute non-existence, but rather a transcendence of individual identity.
* **"Excessive eating and drinking"**: This is a literal rendering of the Arabic phrase. In Sufi thought, this often refers to attachment to worldly pleasures that distract from spiritual progress.
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