The harms of marriage and having children, with the reasons for avoiding marriage and (the same

BEŞİNCİ BAB · İKİNCİ FASIL · Dördüncü Madde Fourth Point Regarding the harms of marriage and having children and the reasons to abstain from it, and (also) regarding the beneficial aspects of marriage and its …

BEŞİNCİ BAB · İKİNCİ FASIL · Dördüncü Madde

Fourth Point

Regarding the harms of marriage and having children and the reasons to abstain from it, and (also) regarding the beneficial aspects of marriage and its encouragement.

O esteemed one! It is known that the people of refinement have said: The misfortunes of marriage are three, and its benefits are five. Therefore, it is more fitting to encourage it rather than discourage it. [373/b] (Whether marriage is necessary or unnecessary varies according to individuals) if a person has no benefit from marriage, then his marriage is void and superfluous. But the proofs showing the necessity of abstaining from marriage are very sound, clear, and evident.

Indeed, in the school of Imam Muhammad al-Shafi’i (may Allah have mercy on him), celibacy is preferred to marriage. It has been explicitly stated in a hadith: “After one hundred and eighty years pass over my community, celibacy, seclusion, and seeking refuge in the mountains for worship will become permissible.” [266] Again, it is reported: "There will come a time upon people when sustenance can only be earned through sin. At that time, celibacy will be permitted."

Hazrat Ali (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “All women are evil. And the worst of it is our need for them.” And he also said: “Much marriage increases confusion. How fortunate is he who has no family!” The author of Kashshaf Tafsir has recited this poem:

Poem

I married without knowledge and erred without hitting the mark.

How I wish I had died before marriage!

By Allah, I will not weep for one in the grave,

But rather I will weep for the state of the married.

The translation of this poem.

Some Arab dignitaries have said:

“Marriage is a month of joy, a lifetime of sorrow, and indebtedness with the mahr.”

Some Arab poets have recited this couplet:

Couplet

They seized a wolf and debated how to torture it.

Then someone said, "If you want to torment him, marry him and burden him with his troubles."

When a seeker asks his guide for permission to marry, the guide says to him: “Allah is One, and He loves Oneness. So remain single.” Indeed, the Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "My best people in the second century will be those who have little wealth and no wife nor children." [270] And he announced that celibacy is more beneficial than marriage in this time.

The three misfortunes of marriage are: being unable to secure a lawful livelihood. Indeed, it is related in a hadith: “You are all shepherds and are accountable for what you herd.” [268] Here, the (effort) to be avoided is interpreted as not having many family members and possessing little wealth. Or it has been said that this praises celibacy and solitude.

The second misfortune of marriage is failing to fulfill the rights of family members. Indeed, it has come in a hadith: “(Avoiding responsibility for family members) is like a runaway slave. His prayer and fasting are not accepted.” [269]

The third misfortune of marriage is that women and children occupy the person excessively and distract him from Allah. It is when a person, while listening to his wife and being intimate with his children, becomes negligent of remembrance (dhikr) and contemplation of his Lord. Indeed, it has been related: “He perished who was a slave to his wife.” And it has been said: "Inclination towards the thighs of women – does not secure anything – but is rare."

The proofs encouraging marriage are more correct and preferable than the aforementioned proofs that encourage avoiding it. Indeed, according to the school of Imam al-A’zam Abu Hanifa (may Allah have mercy on him), marriage is preferred to celibacy. Allah Most High has said in the Noble Qur'an: “Take of women who are lawful to you…” (An-Nisa 4/3). Again, He taught us to supplicate: "Our Lord, grant us spouses and offspring who will bring us joy!" (Al-Furqan 25/74), announcing that seeking righteous spouses and children is among the finest states of the pious.

The Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Marry, and increase; I shall boast before other nations with your numbers on the Day of Judgment – even if they are few in number.” [270] And he also said: "He who abandons marriage for fear of poverty is not one of us." [271] [374/a] Thus, announcing that those who do not have trust (in Allah) regarding sustenance in marriage are among the most evil of people.

Because the chests of prophets and saints are filled with the light of knowledge, it flows from their veins, and this light excites their souls and hearts. Their feelings, powers, and desires are all moved by that very light. Therefore, every heart among those who are people of refinement and possess abundant light, will have a great desire for conjugal intimacy.

For (just as) medicine is necessary for a wound, so too it is like the ailment itself. Indeed, the Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “I was given forty men’s strength in holding and intercourse, and my follower is given ten men’s strength.” [272] Thus announcing that the desire for conjugal intimacy is proportional to the light and tranquility of the knower.

For sorrow and gloom come into the heart from every desire, but with the desire for conjugal intimacy, the soul finds light, radiance, pleasure, and bliss. That is why most prophets, saints, and scholars have been inclined towards it in abundance.

In the ignorant masses who are attached to their desires, inclination to intercourse is a bad disease. For in them, this matter arises not through the influence of the light of knowledge, but rather as a consequence of the fire of desire. Therefore, every desire that the perfected person finds healing from heart ailments is acceptable and praised. The conjugal desire of the deficient person afflicted with cardiac illnesses is an ailment itself.

Poem

Heveytu’s-semâne fe şeyyebetnî

Ve kad kuntu kıdemen hevyeti’s-semâne

Beyt (in tercümesi)

Kocattı beni ama şişmanları sevdim; gençliğimde de zaten onları

sevmiştim.

Evliliğin beş faydasından birincisi şudur:

Evlilik insan cinsinin devamına vesile olur. Muhammed (a.s)’ın ümmeti

onun sâyesinde çoğalır. (Eğer çocuk) masum iken vefat ederse, mahşerde

ebeveynine şefâat eder.

İkinci faydası şudur ki; evlilikte zinâdan korunma ve ehliyle (helâlinden)

zevk alma vardır. Kalbi (haramlardan) boşaldıkça insan nice hoş haller

bulur. Çünkü “Karanlığı çöktüğü zaman gecenin şerrinden” (Felak

113/3) nazm-ı celîli, (helâl yolla kalbi şehvetten arınan insanın) gece zikre

kıyam etmesi olarak tevil edilmiştir. Nitekim Hak teala; “Kadınlardan

zevklere aşırı düşkünlük insanlara süslü gösterildi” (Nisâ 3/14)

buyurmuş ve (âyetin devamında sayılan dünya zevkleri içinde) kadınları

hepsinden önce zikretmekle, dünya lezzetlerinin en meşhuru ve en tatlısının

kadın olduğunu duyurmuştur.

Üçüncü faydası şudur; Evlenen adamın nefsi eşiyle rahat ve huzur bulur.

Çünkü insan nefsi bir işe devam ederse ondan yorulur. Onun içindir ki

“Zihinlerin rehâveti, bedenlerin rehâveti gibidir” denilmiştir. Hak teala;

“Gönlü ısınsın diye ondan eşini var etti” (A’râf 7/189) buyurmuş ve her

kuluna ehliyle lezzetlenmek lâzım olduğunu duyurmuştur. Hadis-i şerifte

ise; “Sizin dünyanızdan bana üç şey sevdirildi; kadınlar, güzel koku ve

gözümün nûru namaz” [273] rivayeti gelmiştir. O Hazret’e ilâhî nûrların

mükâşefesi ağır geldikçe “Benimle konuş ey Âişe!” [274] diyerek, mübarek

elini üzerine koyup onunla şakalaşmıştır.

Dördüncü faydası şudur; Evlenen kişi evini çekip çevirmekten kalben

kurtularak rahat bulur. Çünkü gece gündüz ev işleri(nin bütün ayrıntısı) ile

uğraşan kişi ömrün kıymetli vakitlerini bu uğurda zâyi ederek ilim

tahsilinden ve amelden mahrum kalır. Onun için sâliha bir hanıma sahip

olmak, alçak dünya nimetlerinden sayılmayıp âhiret sermayesinden kabul

edilir. Çünkü kadın, kişinin ev hizmetlerini görüp şehvetini helâl yoldan

tatmin ettiği için âhiret amellerinde ona yardımcı olmuş olur.

Beşinci faydası şudur; Evlenen kişi aile fertlerinin tâlim ve terbiyesiyle

meşgul olurken aynı zamanda nefsiyle mücâhede eder. Onların geçimini

temin etmek üzere helâl yoldan kazanmaya çalışıp bu uğurda sıkıntılara

katlandıkça riyâzât yoluna girmiş olur. Çünkü maişet temini için çaba

harcamak ve aile fertlerinin terbiyesi için çalışmak insanı halden [374/b]

hale salıp; nefsâniyetten düşürür, elem ateşiyle pişirir ve gam potasında

eritir.

Şiir

İnnî ve in kuntu zâ iyâlin

Kalîle mâlin, kesîre deynî

Li musta‘fin bi rızkı Rabbî

Havâyicî beynehû ve beynî

Şiir (in tercümesi)

Eğer çoluk çocuğum çok ise malım az borcum çok olur. Rabbimin verdiği

rızka kanaat edip ihtiyacımı onlarla aramda paylaşırım.

Buraya kadar yapmış olduğumuz açıklamalarla evliliğin zararları ve

faydaları bütünüyle gözler önüne serilmiş olmaktadır. Şu halde her kimde

onunla gelebilecek zararlar gayet aza inmiş ve fakat evlenmekle elde

edilecek faydalar zatında toplanmışsa onun için evlenmek faydalı ve

gereklidir. Her kimde bunun aksi bir durum söz konusu ise onun da

evlenmeyip bekâr kalması daha fazilteli ve gereklidir. Her kimde bu

faydalarla âfetler karışık vaziyette bulunursa, bu takdirde (söz konusu fayda

ve âfetlerinden) hangisi daha üstün ise onunla amel etmesi tercih edilir.

Haram yemekten daha fazla, zinâya düşmekten sakınılmalı; şehveti galip

olan fakire evlenmesi gerektiği söylenmelidir.

Bekâr olan sâlik (mümkün mertebe) oruçlu olmaya baksın ve az uyusun.

Kimse ile (fazlaca) konuşmayıp halka nazar etmesin, gönülden Mevlâ’ya

yönelsin. Nefsi yorulunca başka bir alâka aramayıp kendi kalbine teveccüh

etsin. Her türlü arzu ve heveslerini(n gerçekleşeceği ânı) tahayyül ederek

tesellî bulsun.

Bundan sonra yine mâsivâyı unutup tefekkürle zikre dalsın. Mevlâ’sıyla

başbaşa kalsın; kâmil ve bâliğ olmadıkça evlenmesin. O nefsiyle nizâ ve

mücâdele halinde iken, heveslerin peşine takılarak gönlünden uzağa

gitmesin. Nitekim bir kâmil mürşid; “Evlenip de Mevlâ yolunda sâbit olan

bir sâlik görmedim. Evlenen mutlaka dünyalığa dayanır” diyerek hikmet

söylemiş ve zamane kadınlarına karşı duyulan arzuda sabır ve tahammül

göstermenin, onlara kavuşup da kötü huylarına katlanmaktan kalbe daha

rahat geleceğini ve rûha huzur vereceğini açıklamıştır. Çünkü Hak teala;

“Eşlerinizden ve çocuklarınızdan size düşman olanlar da vardır.

Onlardan sakının” (Talak 64/14) kelâmıyla (yukarıda bahsi geçen

tehlikeye karşı uyanık bulunmayı insanlara) tembih etmiştir. Adamın nefsi

can düşmanı iken, diğer düşmanlarla bir arada bulunmanın kendisine

ziyadesiyle zararlı olduğunu duyurmuştur.

Kâmil ârif, vahdet âlemine gelmiştir. Çokluk âlemini hayal ve gölge

olarak bilmiştir. Bu sebeple ona göre evlilikle bekârlık, sohbetle uzlet aynı

şey olmuştur. Çünkü o, her şeyi Rabbi ile bulmuştur. Her hâlinde O’nunla iş

görüp O’na teslim olmuş, gönlü O’nun rızâsı ile dolmuştur. Onun mâsivâ ile

bir işi kalmayıp ancak Hak için halka rağbet ve hizmet etmiştir. Bu

durumda ona, evlâdlarla eşlerden ne zarar gelebilir? Çünkü o, kendisine

galebe çalan çoklukta da Mevlâ’sıyla tenhâ kalmayı bilmiştir.

Beyt

Emvâc-ı kesret içre yemm-i vahdeti sezen

Deryâ-dil o deryâ-dil ne keder, alsa da se zen

Günümüz Türkçesiyle

Kesret dalgaları içinde vahdet denizini sezen; derya gönüllüdür, üç kadın

alsa da ne keder.

Indeed, some find safety in celibacy, while others find contentment in marriage. Thus, the person possessing admirable qualities, maturity, beauty, or sufficient means (or opportunity for livelihood) will find happiness and tranquility through marriage. But the one lacking these qualities—the means of sustenance, beauty, or commendable traits—will find peace remaining single. Yet, the Exalted knows best what is good for each servant and grants it to them according to their condition, moment by moment.

*Poem:*

The Creator of the world manifested Himself in a display to the universe,

And made every soul content with a particular state.

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[220] . For a similar narration see: Bayhaqi, Shu’ab al-Iman, VII/520, H. No: 11191.

[221] . For a similar narration see: Bukhari, Mazalim 6, Adab 36; Muslim, Birr, 65.

[222] . For a similar narration see: Bayhaqi , Shu’abü’l-îmân , V/270, H. No: 6624.

[223] . Abu Nuaym , Hilyat al-awliya, III/56, Acluni, Keshf al-hafa , II/349, H. No: 2498.

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[229] . For a similar narration see: Bukhari, Birr 69; Muslim, Birr 103.

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[239] . Munawi, at-Tarif, s. 564.

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[241] . Ahmed b. Hanbal, Kitabu’z-Zuhd , II/29.

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[245] . Bukhari, Maghazi, 24; Haysemi, VI, 117.

[246] . Ibn Abi al-Dunya, el-Iyal , II/818, H. No: 615.

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[274]. See Munawi, *Fayḍ al-Qadīr*, V, 228.

He has said: "Dealing kindly with the people, getting along well with neighbors, and maintaining kinship ties are a means to gain Allah’s pleasure. And these are virtues that erase and eliminate all sins." He has also said: “Kindness towards the people is a halter on the nose of the owner, one end of which is in the hand of an angel who pulls it toward good deeds, and goodness leads him to paradise. Evil character is also a halter on the nose of the owner, one end of which is in the hand of Satan, and Satan pulls it towards evil and wickedness, and wickedness leads him to hell.” He has said: “Whoever does not possess these three qualities does not taste the sweetness of faith.” Among them is gentleness, with which he dispels the anger of the ignorant. Another is piety, with which he abstains from prohibitions. And another is good character, with which he manages people.” He has also said: "The most virtuous of charities is to deal kindly with people." He has also said: “Just as I have been commanded to pray, so too have I been commanded to deal kindly with people.”

The Most Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) taught and explained to his community and companions the ways of tenderness, gentleness, and good relations, highlighting their virtues and benefits. As in some of his traditions, he said: “Allah, who is All-Compassionate, shows compassion to those who are compassionate. Show mercy to those on earth, so that your Lord may show you mercy.” He has also said: "Be merciful to those who are young among you, so that those older than you will be merciful to you." And he said: “It behooves the believers to advise one another with goodness and kindness, to show compassion for one another, and to share in each other’s sorrows by comforting their brothers.”

He has also said: "When a member of the body is afflicted, the entire body feels the same pain, until that limb recovers."

And he has said: “Whoever obeys his parents, maintains kinship ties, speaks softly to family members and servants, honors guests, and takes care of his own needs, then his generosity is complete.” And he has also said: "Sit with the friends, converse with scholars, associate with those who possess wisdom, and be intimate with the poor."

And he has said: “The words of two friends are a trust between them. It is not permissible for one to reveal to others what the other has confided in secret, or to openly disclose his hidden secrets to the people.” And he has also said: "The believer's relationship with another believer is like that of the soul and the body."

And he has also said: “A good look from a believer is an act of worship. A smile for him is expiation for sins.” He has also said: "To please the heart of a believer draws Allah’s pleasure closer." And he has also said: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Hereafter, let him treat his neighbor well, give honor to his guest, and speak only good or remain silent.” And he has also said: “O Abu Huraira! Be as you would like for people, so that you may be a true believer. Get along with your neighbors so that you may be a Muslim.” And he has also said: "Gabriel (peace be upon him) used to advise me so much about the rights of neighbors that I thought he was inheriting from them."

When a disciple asked his mentor for permission to marry, his mentor responded with the wisdom: “Allah is One, and He loves unity. So remain single.” As the Most Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):

It has been said that those whose blessings are abundant, who possess little wealth, and who have no wives or children are fortunate. It was announced in this era that celibacy is preferable to marriage. (Tabarani, Mu'jam al-Kabir, XVIII/159, H. No: 347; Heysemi, Majma'u al-Zawaid, III/315, H. No: 4706.)

(Abu Ya’la, Musnad, I/344, H. No: 438; Ibn Hibban, Sahih, II/225, H. No: 509.)

(Bukhari, Istizna, 9; Muslim, Birr, 25; Abu Dawud, Adab, 55; Tirmidhi, Birr, 21.)

(Ibn Hibban, Sahih, XII/178, H. No: 5355; Muttaqi al-Hindi, Kanzu al-Ummaal, XVI/33, H. No: 43814.)

(Heysemi, Majma'u al-Zawaid, IV/563, H. No: 7638; Muttaqi al-Hindi, Kanzu al-Ummaal, XVI/405, H. No: 44808.)

(Tabarani, Musnad ash-Shamiyyin, III/356, H. No: 2458; Bayhaqi, Shu'abu al-Iman, VII/84, H. No: 9560; Muttaqi al-Hindi, Kanzu al-Ummaal, IX/50, H. No: 24891; Ibn Hajjar, Fath al-Bari, X/456.)

(Ibn Hibban, Sahih, IX/471, H. No: 4163.)

(Ibn Abi ad-Dunya, al-Iyal, II/818, H. No: 615.)

(Bayhaqi, Shu'abu al-Iman, VI/401, H. No: 8665; Muttaqi al-Hindi, Kanzu al-Ummaal, XVI/457, H. No: 45416.)

(Fattani, Tazkiratu al-Mawdu'at, p. 131; Shawkani, Fawa'idu al-Majmua, p. 133, H. No: 48.)

For (to a wound) applying medicine is as necessary as the ailment itself. Indeed, the Most Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “I was given the strength of forty men in holding and intercourse, and to the believer is given the strength of ten men,” and announced that the desire for intercourse is proportionate to the light and tranquility of the gnostics. For every desire brings sorrow and hardness to the heart, except for the desire for intercourse, with which the soul finds light, radiance, pleasure, and delight. Therefore, most prophets, saints, and scholars have been inclined towards it in abundance.

And he said: “A woman who prays five prayers, fasts one month, protects herself from non-mahram men, and obeys her husband will enter Paradise.” And he said: "The rights of a neighbor over his neighbor are eight; if he asks you for a debt, give him; if he invites you, accept his invitation; if he asks for help, assist him; if he attains to a good fortune, congratulate him; if a calamity befalls him, comfort him; if he falls ill, visit him; and if he dies, attend his funeral, and if your neighbor is lost, protect his home and family.” And he said: “The kinship of neighbors is of three kinds: some have three rights, some two rights, and some one right. Those who have three rights are the close Muslim neighbor. These include the right of proximity, the right of being a Muslim, and the right of neighborhood. Those who have two rights are your Muslim neighbor. Those who have one right are your dhimmi (protected non-Muslim) neighbor.” And he said: “The pavilions in Paradise are for those believers who feed others, spread greetings, fast during the day, and remain devoted to worship at night.”

(Similar narration see: Muttaqi al-Hindi, Kanzu al-Ummaal, VIII/500, H. No: 23820.)

(Muttaqi al-Hindi, Kanzu al-Ummaal, III/539, H. No: 7797.)

(Abu Dawud, Aqdiyya 1; Tirmidhi, Ahkam 1.)

And he said: “Whoever is appointed a judge has been slaughtered without a knife.” And he said: "Beware of being neighbors with the wealthy, and associating with rulers and worldly scholars." And he said: "Be humble with those who are humble, and act like those who boast when you encounter them. Such behavior will be a disgrace to them and a charity and honor for you.” And he said: “Whoever mends his shoe and patches his garment (and wears them) and prostrates before the Lord with dust on his forehead has certainly distanced himself from pride.” And he said: "Whoever sits with his family, eats barley bread, wears woolen clothes and sandals, milks his sheep, sits with the poor, and travels along his way on his mount, has surely removed arrogance from his heart." And he said: “Four things break the fast and destroy good deeds: falsehood, gossip, backbiting, and looking at non-mahram women. These are the beginnings of all evil. Just as water is the root and essence of every tree.”

(Ahmed b. Hanbal, Kitabu al-Zuhd, p. 475; Abu Nuaym, Hilyatu al-Awliya, V/74.)

And he said: “Whoever obeys his parents, maintains kinship ties, speaks softly to family members and servants, treats his religious brethren with generosity, and also takes care of the needs of his own household, his character is complete.” And he said: "Sit with the saints, converse with scholars, engage in conversation with those who possess wisdom, and be intimate with the poor."

And he said: “The words of two friends are a trust for each other. It is not permissible for one to tell another’s secret to others, nor is it permissible for him to reveal another's hidden secrets to the public.” And he said: "The believer is like the soul to the body." And he said: "A glance from a believer at another believer is an act of worship. A smile upon his face is expiation for sins.” And he said: “To please the heart of a believer brings about the acceptance of Allah’s pleasure.” And he said: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Hereafter, let him treat his neighbor well and be generous to his guest. Let him either speak good or remain silent." And he said: "O Abu Huraira! Desire for others what you desire for yourself so that you may be a true believer. Treat your neighbors well so that you may be a Muslim.” And he said: “Gabriel (peace be upon him) used to advise me so much about the rights of neighbors that I thought he would inherit from his neighbor."

(Muttaqi al-Hindi, Kanzu al-Ummaal, III/538, H. No: 7793.)

(Shawkani, Fawa'idu al-Majmua, p. 253, H. No: 104.)

(Albani, Zaaif wa Targheeb Tarheeb, II/219, H. No: 1666.)

“Regarding this,” it is stated in *Musnad al-Shihab*, II/244, Hadith No. 1280; and in Bayhaki’s *Shu'ab al-Iman*, VII/490, Hadith No. 11092.

A similar narration can be found in Abu Dawud, Hunting 4; Bayhaki, *Shu'ab al-Iman*, VII/48, Hadith No. 9404; Ibn Abi ad-Dunya, *Al-Ikhwan*, p.152, Hadith No. 101; Munawi, *Fayz al-Qadir*, II/195, Hadith No. 1647; and Abu Nuaym, *Hilyat al-Awliya*, V/198.

And he has said: “The most virtuous of deeds is to gladden the heart of a believer.” And he has said: “Spending even a single dirham for one’s family is more beloved to me than spending a thousand dirhams in the path of God. And if someone obeys his parents for a single day, it is better in my sight than a thousand years of worship.” And he has said: "Devoting even an hour with one's family is more virtuous in my sight than secluding oneself in a mosque." And he has said: “A believer whose faith is complete is one who possesses good character and provides well for his family.” And he has said: “Approach women with kindness and gentleness. For they are not self-governing; their freedom depends on you, and they are a trust from God in your care.” And he has said: "The expiation of striking a slave is to set him free." And he has said: “One who controls his tongue, his faults are concealed; one who masters his anger, his sins are forgiven.” And he has said: “Treat your female and male servants with generosity and speak kindly to them. Even if they commit seventy errors in a single day, forgive them. Feed them from what you eat, clothe them with what you wear, and treat them as you would your own children. Do not burden them beyond their strength, for they too are flesh, bone, and blood. They are like yourselves.” Know that God, the Creator of the worlds, is the adversary of those who oppress them."

And he has said: “Indeed, this religion is what I deem worthy for you. And this religion can only be strengthened by two qualities: good character and generosity. So it is necessary to honor this religion with these.” And he has said: "It is not permissible for a believer brother to remain angry and estranged from another for more than three nights. The most virtuous of the two who have quarreled are those who initiate greetings and speak." And he has said: “There is great virtue in an easy act of charity, which is reconciling two believers who are estranged.” And he has said: "Whoever reconciles two believers, God Most High rewards him as if he had freed a slave for every word spoken." And he has said: “Visit the sick who live a mile away, visit the brother believer who lives two miles away, reconcile two people who live three miles apart.” And he has said: “He who is close to a ruler distances himself from the Merciful. He who has many companions has much of Satan. He who possesses much wealth has countless and severe sorrows." And he has said: "Those who hold positions of authority have abandoned knowledge and wisdom with you. So leave dominion to them.”

The Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Marry, and increase; on the Day of Judgment, I will boast over other nations because of your multitude—even if they are children." Again, he (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "He who forsakes marriage out of fear of poverty is not one of us.” And he announced that those who do not have trust in God regarding provision in marriage are among the most wicked of people.

And he has said: “Whenever a child is struck and weeps, the Arsh of the Merciful trembles. At that time, God says, ‘My angels, bear witness that I am pleased with him who pleases this orphan.’" And he has said: "Whoever brings a choice fruit from the market to his children receives reward as if he had given charity. Let him first give it to the daughters, for their hearts are tender and God is more merciful towards them.” And he has said: “The rights of a child over his parents are three: to give him a good name at birth, to teach him reading and writing when he reaches the age of reason, and to marry him when he reaches manhood." And he has said: "The rights of a woman over her husband are that even if she were to be riding a she-camel, she should not forbid herself from anything without his permission, except during the month of Ramadan; nor should she leave her home without his knowledge, lest she fall into sin while seeking reward.” And he has said: “If a woman leaves her husband’s house without his permission, her prayer is not accepted until she returns to him and puts her hand in his hand and says, ‘I will do as you command,’ thereby freeing herself from this transgression."

"Behold, they are commanded to give of their sustenance to those who have nothing, even as they love them; and they outdo them in kindness. They shall not impose upon others a burden beyond their strength; for their bodies, too, are flesh and bone. They are like you, people."

“And it has been decreed that the rights of the Muslim over another Muslim are six: to greet him with salutations when he meets him, to respond to his invitation, to offer sincere counsel, to visit him when he is sick, to attend his funeral, and to give generously.”

"It is written that a believer should be gentle and pliable, like a young camel; wherever he is led, he goes. And if a stone is set for him, he stands upon it."

“And one who complains to you about his neighbor has been commanded: ‘Bear with the annoyance of your neighbor and do not inflict harm upon him until death separates you.’ For good neighborliness is not merely refraining from causing harm, but enduring the harm of a neighbor.”

"It is written that showing kindness to others, getting along well with neighbors, and maintaining kinship ties are means to attaining Allah’s pleasure. And these are virtues that erase all sins."

“It is written that acting kindly towards people is like reins upon the nose of one's soul; one end is in the hand of an angel who draws it toward good deeds, leading them to paradise. Evil character is also like reins upon the nose of one’s soul; one end is in the hand of Satan, who pulls it toward evil and leads them to hell.”

"He who possesses these three qualities will not taste the sweetness of faith: gentleness with which he quenches the anger of the ignorant, piety with which he abstains from what is forbidden, and good character with which he deals with people."

“It is written that the most virtuous charity is to deal kindly with people.” And it is written, “I have been commanded to perform prayer as I have been commanded to deal kindly with people.”

"He who obeys his parents, maintains kinship ties, speaks softly to his relatives and servants, and provides for his neighbors will be of perfect character."

“Sit with the friends of Allah, converse with scholars, associate with those devoted to wisdom, and be intimate with the poor.”

“The words of two friends are a trust between them. It is not permissible for one to reveal to others what his friend has confided in secret, nor to expose his hidden secrets to the people."

"The relationship between believers is like that of the soul and the body." And it is written, "A believer's gaze at another believer is an act of worship. A smile upon his face is expiation for sins.” It is written, “To please the heart of a believer is to draw Allah’s pleasure.”

“Let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day speak kindly to his neighbor, honor his guest, and either speak truthfully or remain silent." And it is written, "Jibril (peace be upon him) used to advise me so much about the rights of neighbors that I thought he would make them heirs.”

“O my community and companions! Let yourselves be mannered with the character of Allah. Indeed, wisdom lies within His character. Knowledge can only be attained through learning, and gentleness through striving for a mild disposition. Whoever seeks good will surely find it. He who avoids evil shall be protected and attain salvation."

"O my community! Visit those relatives from whom you have cut ties. Give to those who deprive you. Treat him who acts rudely towards you with kindness, so that Allah may exalt your worth.”

The Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) instructed his community and companions on the ways of getting along well and beautifully, revealing their virtues and benefits. As he said in some traditions: “Allah, the Most Merciful, shows mercy to those who are merciful. Show mercy to those on earth so that your Lord may show you mercy in the heavens.” And it is written, "Be merciful to those who are young among you, so that those older than you will be merciful to you."

“It is incumbent upon believers to advise one another with good and counsel them kindly. To have compassion for one another and share their sorrows, so that the body’s entire organ feels the pain when a part of it is afflicted, until the afflicted limb heals.”

"It is written that I have been commanded to give charity as I have been commanded to deal kindly with people." And it is written, “Indeed, I have been given a religion, and two qualities strengthen it: good character and generosity. So, these should be used to honor this religion.”

It has been said: "The believer should not hold a grudge against his brother for more than three nights, nor turn away from him and remain separate. The best of two people who have quarreled is the one who initiates the greeting and speaks." And it has been said:

"There is great merit in easy charity, which is reconciling two people who have fallen out and separated.” And it has been said: “Whoever reconciles two believers, Allah Most High rewards him as if he had freed a slave.” And it has been said: "Visit a sick person even a mile away, visit the home of a believing brother even two miles away, reconcile two people even three miles away." And it has been said: "Proximity to rulers leads one far from the Compassionate. He who has many associates has much Satan. He who possesses much wealth has countless and severe sorrows.” And it has been said: “Those who hold positions of authority have abandoned knowledge and wisdom in your company. So, leave rulership to them."

And it has been said: "A woman who performs five daily prayers, fasts for a month, protects herself from those forbidden to her, and obeys her husband will enter the highest paradise.” And it has been said: “The rights of a neighbor over his neighbor are eight; if he asks you for a debt, give it to him, if he invites you, accept his invitation, if he asks for help, assist him, when he achieves something good, congratulate him, when calamity befalls him, offer comfort, if he is sick, visit him, and if he dies, attend his funeral, and if your neighbor goes missing, protect his home and family.” And it has been said: "Neighborliness comes in three forms: some have three-fold rights, some two-fold rights, and some one-fold rights. The neighbor with three-fold rights is the Muslim who lives near you. These are the rights of kinship, the rights of being a Muslim, and the rights of neighborliness. The neighbor with two-fold rights is your Muslim neighbor. The neighbor with one-fold rights is your dhimmi (protected non-Muslim) neighbor.” And it has been said: “The pavilions in paradise are for those believers who feed others, spread greetings, fast during the day and stand in worship at night."

And it has been said: "My community’s elect do not enter paradise merely through performing many prayers and fasting often. Rather, they enter through being merciful to creation, with purity of heart [having no ill intentions towards anyone], and generosity.” And that Noble Presence (peace be upon him) would stroke the heads of orphans with his blessed hand, show kindness to them, and speak with a smile. And it has been said: “O Mu’az! Be like a compassionate father to orphaned children. And know for certain that you will reap what you sow.” And it has been said: "Whoever brings joy to a Muslim brother in this world, Allah Most High will bring him joy both in this world and in the Hereafter. Whoever relieves a Muslim brother from one of the sorrows of this world, Allah Most High will relieve him from sorrows on the Day of Resurrection." And it has been said: “If a servant of Allah assists his believing brothers, then Allah Most High will assist him.” And it has been said: "Two gates of paradise are opened for he who shows kindness to his parents and honors them.” And it has been said: “May Allah have mercy on the one who helps his children;” meaning that parents do not command their children to do something that will lead them to disobey.

And it has been said: "Whoever is appointed a judge (kadı) is like a sheep sacrificed without a knife." And it has been said: "Beware of being close to the wealthy, and associating with rulers and scholars who are attached to this world.” And it has been said: “Be humble with those who are humble, and when you encounter those who boast, act like them. Such behavior will be a disgrace for them and a blessing and honor for you." And it has been said: "Whoever mends his shoes and patches his garment and wears them, prostrates before Allah with dust on his forehead, he has certainly distanced himself from pride.” And it has been said: “Whoever sits with his family, eats barley bread, wears woolen clothes and sandals, milks his sheep, sits with the poor, rides upon his mount, surely Allah Most High has removed arrogance from his heart." And it has been said: "Four things break one’s fast and destroy good deeds: falsehood, gossip, backbiting, and looking at that which is forbidden. These four are the beginning of all evil. Just as water is the root and essence of every tree.”

And it has been said: “When an orphan is struck, the weeping causes Allah’s Throne to tremble. At that time, Allah Most High says…”

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And He has commanded that you give to relatives their due, and fear Allah, and He is forgiving and merciful. Those who spend [in the way of Allah] both in times of ease and hardship, and who restrain anger and forgive offenses – for Allah loves those who do good. And when they are greeted with a greeting, they respond [with a better one]. And when others speak to them of what they know, they do not scorn or mock. And they do not heed to the ignorant; for they are forgiven and dutiful. Remembering Allah often, so that their hearts may be humbled and so that they may be rewarded. They say, "Our Lord, grant us mercy from You and facilitate our affairs in the right way."

And He has commanded you to honor your parents, and not to kill a soul whom Allah has forbidden [to kill], and to treat relatives with kindness, and not to cut off ties of kinship. For Allah is watchful over you. And do not spread corruption on earth after it has been set in order, and fear Him, for He is ever near [ready to call you to account].

And when you speak, speak justly, even when you are angry; and forgive others, and be mindful of Allah – surely He is the One who pardons and bestows mercy. And do not walk arrogantly on earth, for you cannot outstrip Allah in anything [of His power or knowledge]. And do not boast of your wealth, for Allah loves not those who boast.

And remember Allah often, so that you may prosper.

And He has commanded you to be kind and generous to orphans. And He has forbidden you from wasting resources. And give to the needy and the traveler in need, and do not begrudge what Allah has given you. For Allah does not like those who are miserly.

And when you speak, speak truthfully; and when you are entrusted with a matter, fulfill it faithfully. And when you judge between people, judge justly. For Allah loves those who are just.

And He has commanded you to be kind to your wife, and not to abuse her or neglect her. And to give her sustenance from what you have been blessed with. And to treat her with respect.

And He has forbidden you from consuming the wealth of orphans unjustly, and from repelling others from the path of Allah, and from innovating in religion. And to disobey your Lord.

And He has commanded you to be grateful for the blessings that He has bestowed upon you. And to remember Him often, so that you may be guided.

And He has forbidden you from consuming the blood of animals, and from eating swine’s flesh, and from sacrificing in the name of other than Allah.

And He has commanded you to establish prayer, and to give charity, and to hold fast to the rope of Allah – [that is, His message] – and not to be divided among yourselves, and have compassion on those who have been wronged. For Allah loves those who are compassionate.

And He has forbidden you from spreading gossip, and from accusing chaste women without proof, and from falsely claiming to be devout.

And He has commanded you to seek knowledge, and to learn the lessons of the past. And to reflect on the signs of Allah in creation.

And He has forbidden you from despairing over His mercy. For with Allah is forgiveness and mercy for those who believe.

And He has commanded you to be patient, and to persevere in righteousness. And not to yield to temptation.

And He has forbidden you from consuming intoxicating drinks, and from gambling, and from idol worship.

And He has commanded you to honor your parents, and to speak kindly to them. And to pray for their forgiveness.

And He has forbidden you from killing a soul whom Allah has forbidden [to kill], except by right.

And He has commanded you to be just in your dealings, and not to cheat or deceive others.

And He has forbidden you from consuming interest [usury], and from eating stolen goods.

And He has commanded you to fulfill your promises, and to honor your contracts.

And He has forbidden you from betraying trusts, and from breaking oaths.

And He has commanded you to be truthful in your speech, and not to lie or exaggerate.

And He has forbidden you from spreading rumors, and from accusing others of what they have not done.

And He has commanded you to be forgiving, and not to seek revenge.

And He has forbidden you from being arrogant, and from looking down upon others.

And He has commanded you to be humble, and to treat everyone with respect.

And He has forbidden you from wasting time, and from pursuing frivolous pursuits.

And He has commanded you to remember death often, and to prepare for the afterlife.

And He has forbidden you from despairing over His decree, and from seeking help from other than Him.

And He has commanded you to be grateful for His blessings, and to praise Him always.

And He has forbidden you from being ungrateful, and from denying His existence.

And He has commanded you to strive in the way of Allah, and to fight against injustice.

And He has forbidden you from oppressing others, and from committing acts of aggression.

And He has commanded you to be kind to animals, and not to mistreat them.

And He has forbidden you from polluting the earth, and from destroying its resources.

And He has commanded you to seek knowledge, and to learn from those who are wise.

And He has forbidden you from being ignorant, and from rejecting guidance.

And He has commanded you to be patient, and to persevere in righteousness.

And He has forbidden you from despairing over His mercy, for with Allah is forgiveness and mercy for those who believe.

It has been narrated that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Whoever gives a date palm to his children as a gift, Allah will reward him like he gave charity.” And it has been narrated that he said: "Whoever brings a fruit from the market to his children, he receives the reward of giving charity. Let him give it first to the daughters so that their hearts may be softened by grace, for Allah is more merciful towards them." And it has been narrated that he said: “The rights of a father over his son are three: To give him a good name when he is born, to teach him reading and writing when he reaches maturity, and to marry him off when he reaches adulthood.” And it has been narrated that he said: "The rights of a wife over her husband include that if she were to be in a ship with a single date palm, she should not forbid him from it until she returns home." And it has been narrated that he said: “If a woman leaves her husband’s house without his permission, her prayer is not accepted. Until she returns and puts her hand in his hand and says, ‘I do whatever you command.’”

It has been narrated that the companions of Allah are many who perform excessive prayers and fast frequently; however, they enter Paradise not through these deeds alone. Rather, they enter due to their compassion towards creation, the purity of their hearts from malice, and their generosity.” And the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) would stroke the heads of orphans, showing kindness to them, smiling while speaking with them. And he said: “O Mu’adh! Be a father to orphans, and know that you will surely reap what you sow.” And he said: "Whoever brings joy to a Muslim brother, Allah will bring joy to him both in this world and the Hereafter. Whoever removes a hardship from a Muslim brother, Allah will remove his hardships on the Day of Resurrection." And he said: “Allah helps His servant who helps others.” And he said: “For one who shows kindness to his parents, Paradise has two gates open.” And he said: “May Allah have mercy on him who helps his children.” That is, parents do not command their children to do something that would lead them to disobedience.

It has been narrated that: "The best of deeds are those that please the people and bring them joy." And it has been narrated that: "Kindness to neighbors is a means of attaining Allah’s pleasure. And these are qualities that erase all sins and shortcomings.” And it has been narrated that: “Kindness to people is like a halter on the nose of one's owner; one end of which is in the hand of an angel, who pulls it towards goodness, and goodness leads him to Paradise. Bad character is like a halter on the nose of one’s owner; one end of which is in the hand of Satan, who pulls it towards evil, and evil leads him to Hell.” And he said: “There are three qualities that a person will not possess without Allah granting him true faith: gentleness with those who are foolish, abstinence from forbidden things, and good character with people. It is through good character that one manages the people.” And he said: "The most virtuous of charities is to manage people well." And he said: “I have been commanded to pray as I have been commanded to manage people well.”

It has been narrated that: “Those who spend [in the way of Allah] both in times of ease and hardship, and who restrain anger and forgive offenses – for Allah loves those who do good.” And it is narrated that he (peace and blessings be upon him) would stroke the heads of orphans. He would show kindness to them, smiling while speaking with them. And he said: “O Mu’adh! Be like a compassionate father to orphans. And know that you will surely reap what you sow.” And he said: "Whoever brings joy to a Muslim brother, Allah will bring joy to him both in this world and the Hereafter. Whoever removes a hardship from a Muslim brother, Allah will remove his hardships on the Day of Resurrection." And he said: “Allah helps His servant who helps others.” And he said: “For one who shows kindness to his parents and honors them, Paradise has two gates open.” And he said: “May Allah have mercy on him who assists his children.” That is, parents do not command their children to do something that would lead them to disobedience.

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It has been narrated that: "A believer should not remain angry with his brother for more than three nights, nor turn away from him and remain separate. The best of two people who have become estranged are those who first offer greetings and speak." And it has been said that:

"There is great virtue in easy charity, which is reconciling two people who have become estranged and separated.” And it has been said that: "Whoever reconciles two believers, the Divine Essence rewards him as if he had freed a slave for every word he speaks." And it has been said that: “Visit a sick person within a mile's distance, visit a believing brother within two miles’ distance, and reconcile two people who are estranged within three miles’ distance.” And it has been said that: "Proximity to rulers leads one away from the All-Merciful. Those with many associates have much mischief. The man who possesses abundant wealth experiences countless and severe sorrows." And it has been said that: “Those who hold positions of power and status have abandoned knowledge and wisdom in your company. Therefore, leave dominion to them.”

. Ibn Maja, Zuhd, 1.

. Muslim, Zikr, 37-38.

. Bukhari, Mazalim, 3; Muslim, Zikr, 38; Abu Dawud, Adab, 68; Also see: Tirmidhi, Birr, 19; Ibn Maja, Muqaddima, 17.

. Ibn Abi Shayba, Musannaf , V/219, H. No: 25415; Muttaqi al-Hindi , Kanzu’l-ummal , XVI/457, H. No: 45417; Shawkani, Fawa’idü’l-majmua , p. 257, H. No: 127.

. Bayhaqi , Shu’abü’l-iman, VI/206, H. No: 7916; Muttaqi al-Hindi , Kanzu’l-ummal , XVI/467, H. No: 45482.

. Bayhaqi, Shu’abü’l-iman, VII/439, H. No: 10891,10892; Muttaqi al-Hindi, Kanzu’l-ummal, XII/34604, 34605.

. This expression was not found in the form of *Marifatnama*; however, Ibn Abi'd-Dunya narrates it as a saying of Prophet David in his book *Al-Iyal*: Ibn Abi’d-Dunya, Al-Iyal , II/820, H. No: 619.

. Bayhaqi , Shu’abü’l-iman , VII/439, H. No: 10891,10892; Muttaqi al-Hindi , Kanzu’l-ummal , XII/34604, 34605.

Furthermore, in the school of thought of Imam Muhammad Shafi'i (may Allah have mercy on him), celibacy is preferred to marriage. It has been explicitly stated in a narration: "After one hundred and eighty years pass over my community, celibacy will become permissible, as well as secluding oneself and seeking refuge in the mountains for worship.” Similarly, it is reported that: “There will come a time upon people when sustenance can only be earned through sin. At that time, celibacy will be permitted."

. Muslim, Birr, 65.

The second affliction of marriage is failing to fulfill the rights of family members. As it has been narrated: "(He who avoids fulfilling obligations) from his relatives is like a runaway slave. His prayer and fasting are not accepted.”

. Bukhari, Adab 13; Tirmidhi, Birr 16; Abu Dawud, Adab, 58.

. Bukhari, Al-Adab al-Mufrad, p. 208, H. No: 594; Muwatta, Husnu’l-Khuluq 1617; Bayhaqi, Shu’abü’l Iman, VI/479, H. No: 8976.

. Bukhari, Mazalim, 3; Muslim, Birr, 58.

And it has been said that: "Indeed, the religion I have prescribed for you is this very religion. And this religion can only be strengthened by two qualities: one is good character, and the other is generosity. These are what must be offered to this religion." And it has been said that: "A believer should not remain angry with his brother for more than three nights, nor turn away from him and remain separate. The best of two people who have become estranged are those who first offer greetings and speak.” And it has been said that:

. For a similar narration see: Bukhari, Mazalim 6, Adab 36; Muslim, Birr, 65.

. For a similar narration see: Bayhaqi, Shu’abü’l-Iman, VII/520, H. No: 11191.

. Abu Nuaym , Hilyatü’l-awliya, III/56, Acluni, Kashf al-hifa , II/349, H. No: 2498.

. For a similar narration see: Bayhaqi , Shu’abü’l-iman , V/270, H. No: 6624.

. Tabarani, Mu'jam al-awsat , II/189, H. No: 1342; Haysemi, Majmauz-zawaeid , VIII/135, H. No: 12992.

. Muslim, Iman, 29; Abu Dawud, Adab, 133.

. Bukhari, Iman 22, Itk 15, Adab 44; Muslim, Eyman, 40.

. Abu Dawud, Adab, 133; Tirmidhi, Birr, 31.

. Tirmidhi, Iman 6; Hakim, al-Mustadrak , I/76, H. No: 173; Bayhaqi, Shu’abü’l-iman VI/415, H. No: 8719.

. Tabarani , Mu‘jamu’l-kabir , XI/59, H.No: 11079.

“O my community and followers! Beget good character with the character of Allah Most High. Indeed, knowledge and gentleness are within His character. Knowledge is only attained through learning, and gentleness is achieved by striving to be soft-tempered (amiable). Whoever seeks goodness will surely find it. He who avoids evil will be protected and attain safety.” And it has been said that: "O my community! Show kindness to relatives who cut off ties with you. Honor those who deprive you, and treat those who behave rudely and ignorantly towards you with gentleness, so that your worth in the sight of Allah may be elevated."

. Tirmidhi, Riza, 11.

And it has been said; “The most virtuous of deeds is to bring joy to a believer’s heart.” And it has been said; "A person's kindness to his relatives is a reward for him from Allah."

"Spending a dirham in charity is more beautiful to me than spending a thousand dirhams on the path of God. And if one were to obey their parents for a single day, it is better in my view than a thousand years of devotion." He also said, "Spending even an hour with one's family is more virtuous in my sight than seclusion (itikaf) in a mosque.” And he said, “A believer whose faith is complete is one who is kind and generous with his family.” And he said, “Approach women with kindness and gentleness. For they are not self-governing; their freedom depends on you, and they are a trust from God in your care." He also said, "The expiation for striking a slave is to set him free.” And he said, “One whose tongue is controlled has his faults concealed, and one who masters his anger has his sins forgiven.” And he said, “Be generous and kind with your female and male servants, speak gently to them. Even if they err seventy times in a day, forgive them. Feed them from what you eat, clothe them from what you wear, treat them as you would your own children. Do not burden them beyond their strength, for their bodies are flesh, bone, and blood; they are like yourselves – human beings. Know that God, the Creator of the worlds, is the adversary of those who oppress them.”

A third benefit is that a married man finds comfort and tranquility with his wife. For the soul tires from pursuing any single endeavor. Thus it is said, “The serenity of minds is like the serenity of bodies." The Exalted One has said, "We created for him a spouse to give him rest" (Al-A'raf 7:189), and announced that every servant must enjoy pleasure with their spouse. In a hadith, it is related that “Three things have been made pleasing to me of your world: women, good fragrance, and prayer, the light of my eyes.” When divine revelations became too heavy for him, he would say, "Speak to me, O Aisha!" and place his blessed hand upon her, jesting with her.

And he said, “The most virtuous deed is to bring joy to the heart of a believer.” And he said, “Spending a dirham in charity is more beautiful to me than spending a thousand dirhams on the path of God. And if one were to obey their parents for a single day, it is better in my view than a thousand years of devotion." And he said, "Spending even an hour with one's family is more virtuous in my sight than seclusion (itikaf) in a mosque.” And he said, “A believer whose faith is complete is one who is kind and generous with his family.” And he said, “Approach women with kindness and gentleness. For they are not self-governing; their freedom depends on you, and they are a trust from God in your care." He also said, "The expiation for striking a slave is to set him free.” And he said, “One whose tongue is controlled has his faults concealed, and one who masters his anger has his sins forgiven.” And he said, “Be generous and kind with your female and male servants, speak gently to them. Even if they err seventy times in a day, forgive them. Feed them from what you eat, clothe them from what you wear, treat them as you would your own children. Do not burden them beyond their strength, for their bodies are flesh, bone, and blood; they are like yourselves – human beings. Know that God, the Creator of the worlds, is the adversary of those who oppress them.”

And he said: “When a child is struck, and his weeping causes the Merciful One’s throne to tremble, then God says, ‘Bear witness, O My angels, that I shall be pleased with whoever pleases him.’" And he said: "Whoever brings a choice fruit from the market to his children receives the reward as if he had given it in charity. Let him first give it to the daughters, for their hearts are tender and God is more merciful towards them." And he said: “The rights of a child over his parents are three: to give him a beautiful name at birth, to teach him reading and writing when he reaches the age of reason, and to marry him off when he reaches adulthood.” And he said: "The rights of a wife over her husband are that even if she were to be riding a camel, she should not refrain from herself from him without his permission, nor fast even one day outside of Ramadan. She should not leave her home without his knowledge, lest she sin while seeking reward." And he said: “If a woman leaves her husband’s house without his permission, her prayer is not accepted until she returns to him and places her hand in his, saying ‘Do as you please,’ thereby freeing herself from this transgression.”

And he said; "One who obeys his parents, maintains kinship ties, speaks gently with his family and servants, shows generosity to his brethren, and takes care of the needs of his own household – his character is complete." And he said: “Sit with the saints, converse with scholars, engage in discourse with those wise in knowledge, and be intimate with the poor.”

And he said: "The words of two friends are a trust between them. It is not permissible for one to reveal to others what the other has confided in secret, nor is it lawful for him to expose another’s hidden secrets to the public." And he said: “The believer's relationship with his fellow believer is like that of a soul and body.”

And he said: "A believer looking at another believer is an act of worship. A smile upon his face is atonement for sins.” And he said, “Bringing joy to the heart of a believer draws forth God’s pleasure." And he said, “Whoever believes in God and the Hereafter treats his neighbor with kindness and shows respect to his guest…"

"Abu Huraira has narrated: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "The best of you are those who are most gentle with their people and the best among the Muslims are those who excel in good character." And he (ﷺ) said, “Verily, my Lord has ordained for me a religion, and it is only perfected by two qualities: gentleness and generosity.” And he (ﷺ) said, "The neighbor has rights over you." And he (ﷺ) said, “Gabriel kept advising me about the rights of neighbors until I thought he would declare them as relatives.”

And he (ﷺ) said: "Indeed, I have been given a religion that is perfected. And this religion can only be strengthened by two qualities: good character and generosity.” And he (ﷺ) said, "It is not permissible for two Muslims to remain angry at each other for three nights; the best of them is the one who initiates greetings." And he (ﷺ) said, “The most virtuous charity is reconciling between two quarreling people.” And he (ﷺ) said: “Whoever brings about reconciliation between two believers, Allah will reward him with a reward equal to what he gives in charity and performs good deeds.” And he (ﷺ) said, "Visit the sick person who lives one mile away and you will be rewarded as if you had performed Hajj." And he (ﷺ) said: “Those close to authority are far from the mercy of Allah. Those with many companions have much Satan. Those with abundant wealth have countless sorrows and hardships.”

And he (ﷺ) said, "It is better to leave a kingdom than to commit an injustice." And he (ﷺ) said: “Verily, those who hold positions of authority have abandoned knowledge and wisdom; so you should abandon power to them.”

And he (ﷺ) said; "Gaining the pleasure of Allah through kindness towards people, good relations with neighbors, and maintaining family ties is a means to attain His approval. And these are qualities that erase all sins." And he (ﷺ) said: “Kindness toward people is like a halter on the nose of the owner, one end of which is in the hand of an angel who pulls it towards goodness, and goodness leads him to Paradise. Bad character is like a halter on the nose of the owner, one end of which is in the hand of Satan, and Satan pulls it toward evil, and evil leads him to Hell.” And he (ﷺ) said: “Whoever possesses three qualities will not taste the sweetness of faith: humility, moderation, and good character. The best charity is to help people with good manners." And he (ﷺ) said, "I have been commanded to pray, and I have also been commanded to treat people with kindness.”

And he (ﷺ) said: “Whoever is appointed a judge, he has sacrificed himself without a sword.” And he (ﷺ) said: “Beware of associating with the wealthy, and avoid dealing with rulers and worldly scholars.” And he (ﷺ) said: "Be humble with those who are humble, and act like those who boast when you encounter them. By doing so, you will humiliate them and gain charity and honor for yourself." And he (ﷺ) said: “Whoever mends his shoes and patches his garment and prostrates before Allah with a dusty forehead, has surely escaped pride.” And he (ﷺ) said: "Whoever sits with his family, eats barley bread, wears woolen clothes, and sandals, milks his sheep, sits with the poor, rides on his mount, then he has certainly had arrogance removed from his heart." And he (ﷺ) said: “Four things break the fast and destroy good deeds: lying, backbiting, gossiping, and looking at what is forbidden. These are the beginnings of all evil, just as water is the essence of every tree.”

And he (ﷺ) said: "Softness and kindness in dealing with people brings about worldly and religious happiness. Whoever lacks these qualities will be deprived of both." And he (ﷺ) said: “Consultation with others leads to success; those who act according to their own opinion are doomed to failure.” And he (ﷺ) said, "Abandoning the world earns one merit in Allah’s sight. Abandoning what is in the hands of people makes one beloved by the hearts of lovers." And he (ﷺ) said: “He who does not take a trust is safe. He who does not ask others for anything is honored.”

And he (ﷺ) said, "Advising believers with gentleness is a sign of blessedness." And he (ﷺ) said: “Allah loves the gentle and hates harshness and violence. Allah does not grant His favor to those who are harsh as He does to those who are gentle.” And he (ﷺ) said: “When Allah intends goodness for a family, He makes gentleness prevalent among them and frees them from harshness. For gentleness only beautifies what it encompasses, while rudeness spoils everything it touches."

“Whoever sits with the poor and travels on his mount upon his way, surely He, Exalted is He, has removed arrogance from his heart.” And he said: “Four things invalidate fasting and ablution and nullify good deeds: falsehood, gossip, tale-bearing, and looking at that which is forbidden. These are the beginnings of all evil, just as water is the root and foundation for all trees.

And he said: "Whoever obeys his parents, maintains family ties, speaks gently to relatives and servants, gives hospitality to brethren in faith and provides for the needs of his household, his generosity is complete.” And he said: “Sit with the friends of God, converse with scholars, engage in discourse with those who possess wisdom, and be intimate with the poor.”

And he said: "The words of two companions are a trust between them. It is not permissible for one to reveal to others the secret words of the other, nor is it lawful for him to expose his hidden secrets to the people." And he said: “The believer’s relationship with another believer is like that of the soul and body.”

And he said: "It is an act of worship for a believer to look upon another believer. A smile towards him expiates sins.” And he said: "To please the heart of a believer brings about the favor of the Most Merciful." And he said: “Whoever believes in God and the Hereafter, let him treat his neighbor well, honor his guest, and either speak good or remain silent.” And he said: “O Abu Huraira! Desire for others what you desire for yourself so that you may be a true believer. Treat your neighbors kindly so that you may be a Muslim.”

And he said: "Gabriel (peace be upon him) used to advise me so much about the rights of neighbors that I thought a neighbor would inherit from his neighbor."

And he said: “He who partakes of gentleness and manages people with kindness finds worldly and otherworldy good. He who does not partake of these is deprived of worldly and otherworldy good.” And he said: "After faith, the most important thing about reason is to manage people with kindness, to approach them with friendliness, to blend in beautifully, and to be intimate. For the work of one who consults succeeds. The end of him who relies only on his own opinion is ruin."

And he said: “He who abandons the world gains value in the sight of God. He who relinquishes what is in the hands of people becomes the beloved of hearts.” And he said: "He who does not take a trust finds ease. He who asks nothing from people becomes noble.”

And he said: "Advising believers with compassion is a sign of felicity."

And he said: “God, Exalted is He, is gentle and loves gentleness, and dislikes harshness and rudeness. He bestows favor upon the gentle one that He does not bestow upon him who is rough and uncouth.” And he said: "God, Exalted is He, if He intends good for a household, makes gentleness a habit among them and delivers them from severity. For gentleness only beautifies and adorns what it touches, while rudeness renders what it touches ugly and vile."

And he said: "Advising believers with compassion is a sign of felicity."

And he said: “The devotees of our community will not enter Paradise merely by performing many prayers and fasting frequently. Rather, they will enter through being merciful to those who exist, with the purity of hearts [having no ill intentions towards anyone], and through generosity.” And that Presence (peace be upon him) would gently stroke the heads of orphans, do good deeds for them, and speak to them with a smile.

And he said: “O Mu’adh! Be like a compassionate father to orphans. And know this with certainty: you will reap what you sow." And he said: "Whoever brings joy to a Muslim brother, God, Exalted is He, will bring him joy both in this world and in the Hereafter. Whoever relieves a Muslim brother from one of his sorrows, God, Exalted is He, will relieve him from his troubles on the Day of Resurrection.”

And he said: "If a servant of God helps his believing brethren, then God, Exalted is He, helps him." And he said: “For one who shows kindness to his parents, two gates of Paradise are opened.” And he said: “May God have mercy upon him who assists his offspring,” meaning that parents do not command their children to do something rebellious.

And he said: "The most virtuous of deeds is to please the heart of a believer." And he said: "In my sight, spending one dirham for the benefit of his family members is more beautiful than spending a thousand dirhams in the path of God. And if someone obeys his parents for a day, it is better than performing Hajj.”

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“A person should reconcile between people.” And it was said: "One who is close to a sultan becomes distant from the All-Merciful. One with many companions has much Satan. One with much wealth has countless and severe grief." And it was said: "Those who possess status and rank have abandoned knowledge and wisdom amongst you. So, leave dominion to them.”

And it was said: “If an orphan is struck, the Arsh of the All-Merciful trembles from his weeping. Then the Exalted One says: ‘My angels bear witness that I am pleased with whoever pleases the orphan.’" And it was said: "Whoever brings a choice fruit from the market to their children receives reward as if they had given charity. Let them first give it to the daughters, for their hearts are tender and the All-Merciful is more merciful towards them.” And it was said: “A child has three rights over their parents: to give them a beautiful name at birth, to teach them reading and writing when they reach the age of reason, and to marry them off when they reach adulthood." And it was said: "The rights of a woman over her husband are that even if she were on a camel’s hump, she should not restrain herself from him without his permission, nor fast even one day outside of Ramadan. She should not leave her home without his knowledge; lest she fall into sin while seeking reward.” And it was said: “If a woman leaves her husband's house without his permission, her prayer is not accepted until she returns and puts her hand in his hand and says, ‘Do as you please,’ so that she may be freed from this transgression."

And it was said: "The most virtuous of deeds is to gladden the heart of a believer.” And it was said: “Spending even a single dirham on one’s family members is more beautiful in my sight than spending a thousand dirhams on the path of God. And if someone obeys their parents for a single day, it is better in my sight than a thousand years of worship." And it was said: "Devoting even an hour to one's family is more virtuous in my sight than seclusion in a mosque.” And it was said: “A believer with perfect faith is one who is of good character and has a pleasant livelihood amongst his family members.” And it was said: "Approach women with kindness and treat them gently. For they are not self-governing; their freedom depends on you, and they are a trust from God in your care." And it was said: “The expiation for striking a slave is to set him free.” And it was said: "One who controls his tongue has his faults concealed, and one who masters his anger has his sins forgiven.” And it was said: "Be generous and kind to your female and male servants and speak gently with them. If they commit seventy errors in a day, forgive them. Feed them from what you eat and clothe them in what you wear, treat them as you would your children. Do not burden them beyond their strength, for their bodies are flesh, bone, and blood. They are like yourselves – human beings. (Know that) the adversary of those who oppress them is the Creator of the worlds, Hazret-i Allah.”

The third benefit is: The married man finds comfort and tranquility with his wife. For the soul becomes weary if it persists in a single task. Therefore, it has been said: "The relaxation of minds is like the relaxation of bodies." The Exalted One says: “We created for her a spouse so that she might find contentment.” (Al-A’raf 7/189) and announced to every soul that enjoyment with one's spouse is necessary. In a hadith, it is narrated: "Three things have been made beloved to me in your world: women, good fragrance, and prayer, which is the light of my eyes." That Prophet would ease the burden of divine revelations by saying, “Speak to me, O Aisha!” and placing his blessed hand upon her while joking with her.

And it was said: "Dealing kindly with people, getting along well with neighbors, and maintaining kinship ties are a means to gain the pleasure of the Lord. And these are virtues that erase and eliminate all faults.” And it was said: “Kindness towards people is like reins on the nose of one who owns them; one end of the rein is in the hand of an angel, who pulls it toward good deeds, which lead to paradise. Bad character is like reins tangled around the nose of one who owns them; one end of the rein is in the hand of Satan, who pulls it towards evil and wickedness, which leads to hell.” And it was said: "Whoever does not possess these three qualities does not taste the sweetness of faith: wisdom, with which he dispels the anger of the ignorant; piety, with which he abstains from forbidden things; and good character, with which he manages people." And it was said: “The most virtuous charity is to manage people with kindness.” And it was said: "Just as I am commanded to perform prayer, so too am I commanded to manage people with kindness."

“O my community and followers! Let yourselves be mannered by the manners of the Exalted One. Indeed, knowledge and wisdom are within His manners. Knowledge is only attained through learning, and gentleness is achieved by striving to be agreeable. Whoever seeks good will surely find it. He who avoids evil is protected and finds safety.” And it was said: "Seek knowledge. Along with knowledge, seek wisdom and tranquility. Speak gently to the students to whom you teach knowledge. Show respect to your teachers from whom you learn knowledge. Do not be among the harsh and rude scholars so that ignorance does not overcome you." And it was said: “O my community! Reconcile with relatives who have cut off ties, treat them generously, give gifts to those who deprive you, and deal with those who behave rudely to you with gentleness, so that your worth is exalted in the sight of God.”

Then that Prophet (peace be upon him) answered his companions saying:

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(Know that) the Creator of the worlds, Hazret-i Allah, is the enemy of those who oppress others.

And He has said: “One who partakes of gentleness and administers people with kindness finds success in this world and the Hereafter. Whoever does not partake of these qualities is deprived of success in this world and the Hereafter.” And He has said: "After faith, the chief of reason is to administer people with beauty, to approach them with friendliness and blend with them harmoniously. For the work of one who consults succeeds. The end of one who relies only on his own opinion is ruin." And He has said: “He who forsakes the world attains worth in the sight of Allah. He who forsakes what is in the hands of people becomes the beloved of hearts.” And He has said: "He who does not accept trusts finds ease. He who asks nothing from people becomes noble.”

And He has said: “Advising believers with compassion is a sign of blessedness."

And He has said: “The Exalted One favors the gentle and dislikes harshness and rudeness. He bestows favor upon the gentle in the way He does not bestow it upon one who is coarse and violent.” And He has said: "When the Exalted One intends good for a household, He makes gentleness a habit among them and frees them from severity. For gentleness only beautifies and adorns whatever it touches. Rudeness renders what it touches ugly and vile."

And He has said: “The abdals of our community will not enter Paradise merely by performing many prayers and fasting frequently. Rather, they will enter through compassion towards the created beings, with purity of heart [freedom from ill intentions toward anyone], and generosity.” And that Noble Person (peace be upon him) would stroke the heads of orphans with his blessed hand, do good to them, and speak with a smile. And He has said: “O Mu’az! Be like a compassionate father to orphaned children. And know for certain that you will reap what you sow." And He has said: "Whoever brings joy to a Muslim brother in this world, the Exalted One will bring joy to him both in this world and in the Hereafter. Whoever relieves a Muslim brother from one of his worldly sorrows, the Exalted One will relieve him from sorrows on the Day of Resurrection.” And He has said: “If a servant of the Exalted One helps his believing brothers, then the Exalted One is with his help." And He has said: "For one who shows kindness to his parents, two gates of Paradise are opened.” And He has said: “May the Exalted One have mercy on him who helps his children,” meaning that parents do not command their offspring to do something that will lead them to disobedience.

And He has said: “Whoever is appointed a judge (kadı) is like one sacrificed without a knife." And He has said: "Beware of being close to the wealthy, and associating with rulers and scholars who are attached to this world.” And He has said: "Be humble with those who are humble, and when you encounter those who boast, act as they do. Such behavior will be a disgrace for them and a reward of charity and honor for you." And He has said: “Whoever mends his sandals and patches his garment and wears them, and prostrates before the Exalted One with dust on his forehead, he has certainly distanced himself from pride.” And He has said: "Whoever sits with his family, eats barley bread, wears woolen clothes and clogs, milks his sheep, sits with the poor, rides upon his mount, that person has surely had arrogance removed from his heart." And He has said: “Four things break one’s fast and nullify good deeds: falsehood, gossip, tale-bearing (prying), and looking at what is forbidden. These are the beginnings of all evil. Just as water is the root and essence of every tree.”

And He has said: "Indeed, the religion I have prescribed for you is this religion. And this religion can only be strengthened by two qualities: good character and generosity. It is necessary to offer these with this religion." And He has said: “It is not permissible for a believer to remain angry at his brother for more than three nights and to turn away from him and separate himself. The best of two people who have quarreled and remained angry is the one who initiates the greeting.” And He has said: "There is great merit in an easy act of charity, which is reconciling two believers who are estranged." And He has said: “Whoever reconciles two believers, the Exalted One rewards him as if he had freed a slave for every word he speaks.” And He has said: “Visit a sick person within a mile’s distance, and go to visit a believing brother within two miles' distance, and reconcile two people within three miles’ distance." And He has said: "He who is close to the ruler becomes distant from the Merciful. He who has many associates has much Satan. He who has much wealth has countless and severe sorrows.” And He has said: “Those who hold positions of power and status have abandoned knowledge and wisdom with you. So, leave authority to them."

And He has said: "When an orphan is beaten, the weeping causes the Merciful One’s throne to tremble. At that time, the Exalted One says, ‘My angels, bear witness that I will be pleased with whoever pleases that orphan.’” And He has said: “Whoever brings a choice fruit from the market to his children receives the reward as if he had given charity. Let him first give it to the daughters, for their hearts are tender and the Exalted One is more merciful towards them.” And He has said: "The rights of a female upon her husband are that if she were to be on a camel’s spit, she should not forbid herself from fasting except during the month of Ramadan without his permission." And He has said:

"If a woman leaves her husband's home without his permission, her prayer will not be accepted until she returns home and places her hand in his, unable to free herself from this sin. It has been said: 'The believers are brothers and sisters. And the scholars are like one soul.' It has also been said: 'Give to one another so that you may show affection for one another.' And it has been said: 'The best among people is he who benefits others.' Thus, the noble companions, those who followed them, and Islamic scholars would always assist each other and provide mutual benefit. Perhaps they would show mercy and offer aid to the People of the Book (Christians and Jews) and all creation.

It has also been said: 'One who possesses gentleness and governs people with kindness finds happiness in this world and the hereafter. Whoever lacks these qualities is deprived of both worldly and otherworldy good.' And it has been said: 'After faith, the best of reason is to govern people with kindness. Approaching them with friendliness and blending with them in harmony, for consultation leads to success, while relying solely on one's own opinion leads to ruin.'

It has also been said: 'One who abandons the world gains merit in the sight of God. One who forsakes what is in the hands of people becomes beloved by the hearts.' And it has been said: 'He who does not seek anything from people finds ease. He who does not desire anything from people attains dignity.'

It has also been said: 'Advising believers with compassion is a sign of felicity.' It has also been said: 'God loves those who are gentle and dislikes harshness and rudeness. God does not bestow grace upon the rude as He does upon the gentle.' And it has been said: 'When God intends good for a household, He makes gentleness their habit and frees them from severity, for gentleness only beautifies what it touches, while rudeness renders things ugly and vile.'"